Hi Guys, during my personal and professional journey from PSU to the private sector in different areas, different plants and different domains of work from planning, maintenance, projects, system establishment. I find that many people who normally blame people and circumstances for their failures for not getting the desired results for their personal and professional life and keep on blaming bosses, organizations, and circumstances then I started exploring on this subject that whether someone can be responsible for your misery, weather non-achievement of your results can be attributed to someone else.

We need to take responsibility of our success and failures

I discussed with so many people who achieved the things of desire in their lives and those who are not able to achieve what they want in their life. During this study, I seldom found that people who are serious about their objective of achievement and clear of their goals not able to succeed.

The biggest difference which I observed with two types of people is that person who takes the responsibility of their actions normally succeeds even after some failures and error and trials in the long run. But the second class of people who blame others for their failures are the persons who blame others for what happens with them, By this concept of blaming others they presume that I am ok and could not succeed due to fault of others and due to unfavorable circumstances and they forget to notice their own shortcomings and here lies the catch, they try to blame and rectify each and everyone except the real culprit.

Just one of my friends informed one analogy that a beggar has two choices either to beg on road forever or to do some hard labor work which can help him to learn some new skill which may open the path of development. He can not blame others for his misfortune because due to his own choice not to do hard work he is begging throughout his life.

I am able to correlate the example of some of Diploma graduates in my previous organization who develop themself by gaining knowledge and competency by working hard with a positive frame of mind to compete with graduate engineer counterparts and rose very fast in the hierarchy and even better than engineering graduates. Even in state governments administration departments the officers who start from lower ranks often seen achieving greater heights by their efforts and determination in comparison to direct recruits from central services cadre.

Moral of the story is a difference in perception of individual competency with respect to the desired competency for the role needs to be reviewed very diligently and action plan for self-development is to be made so that desired core competency of roles at a different level can be achieved by individuals for better results in personal and professional life.